Tag: advice

• The heart of my Memoir

  I signed onto a free online class about Memoir writing today. It was difficult to concentrate solely on the class and not look around the room or let my mind drift off to other things. Something I picked up on was finding the heart of my Memoir. The Lecturer said her Memoir started out as […]

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  October 29, 2022

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• The little things

  A fellow blogger has a blog titled “the pauses in between”. It’s a gorgeous blog, I highly recommend it ☺️. We Filo’s gotta hype each other up, huh? Anyway. What I wanted to write about was about the small moments in life – the ones in between all the big moments, because they’re the ones […]

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  August 30, 2022

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• Hold on tight

  I’ve been ill so much these last 4 weeks that sadness and frustration are creeping in and my anxiety is doing it’s best to convince me I’ll never feel better again. So instead of worrying (so hard as it’s what I naturally do), I want to list the good things in my life. I have […]

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  July 4, 2022

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• There’s no substitute for compassion

  The latest thing out there right now is all about “manifesting” goodness, wealth, health, happiness etc into your own life. “If you believe it…you will achieve it“ Sorry, (not really) but that’s utter bullsh*t. Believing and – for the love of God – manifesting *shudder* good things can only get you so far. I think […]

  janetdthomas77

  June 17, 2022

  Burnt out, Family Obligations, fed up, manifesting

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• I’m not that girl

  I’m 45, seriously overweight and fed up with life. I’m ugly, guys. I’m not the head turner I used to be. Even so, I want to keep my true ugly form as hidden as possible; so my Instagram and Facebook only show photos from years ago when I was slim and sexy…or are heavily filtered […]

  janetdthomas77

  June 4, 2022

  dating, Humour, identity, relationship advice, Relationships

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• Unfavourite

  As I was writing my Memoir, I was gaslighting myself! Was your childhood really that bad, JD – or did you dramatise it? I actually took to YouTube of all places, to find out how other people have been affected by knowing their parents favoured their sibling over them. One girl commented “if my Mother […]

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  May 20, 2022

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• My week in a fancy psych ward

  I completed 7 full days. I asked – in great trauma and distress – on the 7th day to be released to go home as I was the most suicidal and out of control I’ve been in years and it was due to the treatment I received in hospital. First let’s do the pros and […]

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  October 4, 2021

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• This one’s for you

  I see you. Working hard and not being noticed. Emptying bins at work and everyone treats you as if you’re not there. Working long hours and managing a household with little ones all on your own… Feeling lonely in a crowd and thinking you’ll never find the one for you. Feeling hurt, passed over, rejected, […]

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  January 30, 2021

  Life

  advice, encouragement, Feeling Alone

• Girl, I feel you

  So the hunt for another job is on. I got a call from a recruiter today about a reception job. The last receptionist had been “let go” after 4 weeks (why was this being disclosed to me?) because she “wasn’t keeping up” with the busy role and was letting “outside personal problems” interfere with her […]

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  January 27, 2021

  Work

  advice, Life, Temps, Work

• Blow jobs

  They’re not my favourite. Getting them, I’m down for – but giving them? It’s a lot of pressure. I don’t like having to “look sexy” while I’m doing it, too. How are girls pulling that off? I legit look like I’m drowning. I think of a blowjob like eating a banana. You eat a banana […]

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  January 15, 2021

  Relationships

  advice, Humour, Life, Relationships, sex