Tag: abuse

• My medium article – on being gaslit and emotionally abused:

  I like to think of myself as creative, you know. Arty. When my brother (“the favourite”) was getting accolades for being his golden, amazing self, I’d cheer myself up and think “You might be salesman of the year — but I’m the one who notices the sunlight through a dew drop on a leaf”. I notice scratches and…

  janetdthomas77

  March 15, 2023

  abuse, anxiety, coercive control, Fears

  abuse, brokenwill, emotionalabuse, gaslighting, lossofconfidence

• The heart of my Memoir

  I signed onto a free online class about Memoir writing today. It was difficult to concentrate solely on the class and not look around the room or let my mind drift off to other things. Something I picked up on was finding the heart of my Memoir. The Lecturer said her Memoir started out as…

  janetdthomas77

  October 29, 2022

  addiction, anxiety, Author life, books, Christian life, communication, dating, family, Family Obligations, Favouritism, Fears, Friends, goals, happy memories, hospital, Humour, identity, Illness, Jealousy, Life, loss, love, marriage, memoir, mental illness, obsessed, Relationships, sexlife, siblings, suicide, worth, Writer, writing

  2ndmarriage, abuse, acceptance, addiction, advice, anxiety, authenticity, author, Author struggles, authorlife, authors, authorsLife, backstories, backstory, battles, blessings, bloggers, book production, bookgoals, bookreview, books, boys, breakups, buddingauthor, buddingwriter, canweevergoback, changedforever, chapterhook, redraft, rewrite

• Shhh…

  I’m an emotional girl, God bless me. So when I get hurt…oh it feels like my whole world has fallen apart. This latest episode of “Drama in the life of Janet” with Craig taking a load of money from me has really wound me up. I’m still reeling from it. I get all in my…

  janetdthomas77

  July 1, 2022

  abuse, bullies, coercive control, Fears, identity, Illness, loss, mental illness

  abuse, coercive control, financialdespair, forced, friendsarekindnotcruel, lessons, money, notafriend, painful

• Black box

  A talented artist Stan Walker sings a song I LOVE called “Black Box” where in the chorus he sings “There’s a little black box yeah, somewhere in the ocean…holding all the truth about us…there’s a little black box, a record of emotion…everything there ever was…” (** Black boxes are anti-breakable boxes on planes that record…

  janetdthomas77

  May 19, 2022

  abuse, addiction, alcohol, anxiety, depression, divorce, identity, love, marriage, mental illness, narcissist, Relationships

  abuse, addiction, Amber Heard, black box, cheating, divorce, Johnny Depp, pain, Relationships, Trial

• The Shrink next door

  It’s hard to write today’s blog because it hurts my heart to remember back to the abusive relationship I was in and how much pain I went through at the time. I wrote a chapter about Anne in my Memoir but watching appleTV’s series “The Shrink next door” and seeing a sweet, vulnerable man go…

  janetdthomas77

  November 25, 2021

  abuse, coercive control, family, Fears, Friends, Life, loss, narcissist, Relationships

  abuse, coercive control, conniving, destruction, lies, manipulation, pain, profoundhurt

• Thank you

  I used to date a scary, incredibly abusive guy. When HE decided to leave ME (the only way the relationship was going to end because I’d bonded with my captor), Dad agreed to drive us both to the airport. We watched Gavin’s suitcases, TV (yes, he took the only TV ‘we’ had in ‘our’ apartment)…

  janetdthomas77

  February 21, 2021

  abuse, coercive control, dating, Fears, Life, Relationships

  abuse, anxiety, boys, coercive control, fear