Category: Relationships

• The first time

  If you’ve been following this blog for a long time (thank you to my besties who have been with me since day one – all those years ago), then you’ll know I have a really long, messy, seriously fucked up history with a guy called Matt. The other day, I logged onto Facebook and saw…

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  February 12, 2023

  addiction, happy memories, identity, Illness, Life, loss, love, Protecting myself, Relationships

  crush, heartache, summerloving, teenagelove

• My best friend Becci

  First of all, Becci is hands down my favourite person ever. She’s sooo giving, generous, gentle, thoughtful, mouthy, kind, super smart, selfless…Becci is all the best things a person can be and I will forever be grateful that out of everyone in the world, I got to have Becci as my best friend. We’ve gone…

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  January 27, 2023

  Friends, happiness, happy memories, Relationships, sex

  bestie, dyingggg, flapclaps, flaps, helicopter, penis

• Bloganuary – How far back in your family tree can you go?

  Well. Today’s bloganuary post will be very short because I can’t trace my family tree back that far. I envy people who can. It must be amazing. For one, half of my tree is missing. I don’t know who my birth father is or who his family are, or where my African-American roots are based.…

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  January 8, 2023

  Author life, bloganuary, family, Friends, happy memories, identity, Life, loss, love, Relationships, Writer, writing

  bloganuary, bloganuary2023, bloganuaryprompt, bloggers, bloggingcommunity, family, Life, Relationships

• Bloganuary – What brings you joy in life?

  These things bring me joy: Time with people I love ❤️ Books. Reading a good book is so good for resting and resetting. Singing. Omg I love to sing. Even when I’m hurting, singing brings me so much peace and healing when I’m struggling. Gardening. I love plants and seeing them grow is such a…

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  January 6, 2023

  Author life, bloganuary, books, Friends, gardening, happiness, happy memories, Humour, identity, Life, love, Mindfulness, Relationships

  bloganuary, bloganuary2023, bloganuaryprompt, children, gardening, happiness, singing, whatbringsjoy, writing

• Dangerous Territory

  Full disclosure guys, (maybe you’ve even already read about it so it won’t come as a surprise to you) I USED TO BE A STALKER. Something I’m deeply ashamed of and given the choice, I keep under wraps and try not to bring up/talk about. It was a dark, confusing time in my life and…

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  October 30, 2022

  addiction, anxiety, Facts are facts, Fears, hospital, identity, Illness, Jealousy, Life, loss, obsessed, Relationships, sex, stalking

  anxiety, depression, Life, mental illness, obsession, stalker, stalking

• The heart of my Memoir

  I signed onto a free online class about Memoir writing today. It was difficult to concentrate solely on the class and not look around the room or let my mind drift off to other things. Something I picked up on was finding the heart of my Memoir. The Lecturer said her Memoir started out as…

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  October 29, 2022

  addiction, anxiety, Author life, books, Christian life, communication, dating, family, Family Obligations, Favouritism, Fears, Friends, goals, happy memories, hospital, Humour, identity, Illness, Jealousy, Life, loss, love, marriage, memoir, mental illness, obsessed, Relationships, sexlife, siblings, suicide, worth, Writer, writing

  2ndmarriage, abuse, acceptance, addiction, advice, anxiety, authenticity, author, Author struggles, authorlife, authors, authorsLife, backstories, backstory, battles, blessings, bloggers, book production, bookgoals, bookreview, books, boys, breakups, buddingauthor, buddingwriter, canweevergoback, changedforever, chapterhook, redraft, rewrite

• Small Talk

  It was Alun’s birthday the next day but I’d been too preoccupied with work to have gotten him a gift and card any earlier. I’d decided after work to go by JB HiFi and get Alun a camera-doorbell thingy that you attach to the top of the front door so that whenever someone rings the…

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  October 24, 2022

  communication, happy memories, Life, Relationships

  connections, Life, Relationships, smalltalk

• A bitter pill to swallow

  Ironically the medication I take is literally bitter pills. I have the unfortunate moment of tasting them on my tongue before I wash them down with the tiny paper cup of water the Nurse gives me after watching to make sure I swallow my tablets. Anyway. Blogging is all good and well when I’m the…

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  October 20, 2022

  anxiety, family, Family Obligations, Favouritism, Fears, identity, Illness, Jealousy, Life, Relationships, siblings, worth

  brothers, family, Favouritism, Jealousy, Life, mental illness, Relationships, resentment

• Writer’s homework

  My book Coach Annie sent me ‘homework’ to do regarding my Memoir and I wanted to share my answers with you…because…why not? (just quietly, I am an attention whore and love it). Here you go: Writing exercises: What is your memoir’s working title? Why did you choose it? What other titles have you considered? Why…

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  October 17, 2022

  abuse, addiction, anxiety, Author life, books, communication, family, Favouritism, Fears, Friends, goals, identity, Illness, Life, loss, love, memoir, mental illness, Relationships, Writer, writing

  author, authorlife, memoir, memoirwriting, thestruggleisreal, Writer, writing

• My Authentic Self

  Today in “groups” we talked about “ACT” Acceptance, Commitment Therapy. I missed the first group because I was on the phone having a psychology appointment (Finally!!! YASS!!!) but I came into the second class and we talked about making meaningful lives for ourselves and what was important to us – what made life worth living,…

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  October 14, 2022

  anxiety, communication, Fears, Friends, goals, happiness, happy memories, identity, Jealousy, Life, love, Mindfulness, Relationships, self love

  acceptance, authenticity, empowerment, friendship, genuinecompliment, genuineself, girlpower, girlssupportgirls, Life, Relationships