Category: Favouritism

• New Year’s Eve

  Raaaaaa. Where to even begin? So much has happened in the last 4-6 weeks, I don’t even know how to tell you all about it without going on a huge RANT and boring you to death, lol. Let’s just say it’s been an emotional rollercoaster that I have wanted to jump off many times, but…

  janetdthomas77

  December 31, 2022

  anxiety, Author life, books, Christian life, communication, depression, family, Favouritism, Friends, goals, happiness, Humour, identity, Illness, kindness, Life, loss, love, memoir, mental illness, Mindfulness, self love, Work, worth, Writer, writing

  Life, mental illness, newgoals, newme, newyear, Relationships

• The best gift ever

  My friend Marquessa writes an awesome blog (I’ll find out how to link it below if you wanted to check it out) and on one of her latest posts, she asks “What’s the best gift you’ve ever received?” Such a great question! I’m so happy to be able to share mine with you. When I…

  janetdthomas77

  December 8, 2022

  Christmas, family, Family Obligations, Favouritism, gifts, Holidays, worth

  bestgiftever, Christmas, gifts, presents

• The heart of my Memoir

  I signed onto a free online class about Memoir writing today. It was difficult to concentrate solely on the class and not look around the room or let my mind drift off to other things. Something I picked up on was finding the heart of my Memoir. The Lecturer said her Memoir started out as…

  janetdthomas77

  October 29, 2022

  addiction, anxiety, Author life, books, Christian life, communication, dating, family, Family Obligations, Favouritism, Fears, Friends, goals, happy memories, hospital, Humour, identity, Illness, Jealousy, Life, loss, love, marriage, memoir, mental illness, obsessed, Relationships, sexlife, siblings, suicide, worth, Writer, writing

  2ndmarriage, abuse, acceptance, addiction, advice, anxiety, authenticity, author, Author struggles, authorlife, authors, authorsLife, backstories, backstory, battles, blessings, bloggers, book production, bookgoals, bookreview, books, boys, breakups, buddingauthor, buddingwriter, canweevergoback, changedforever, chapterhook, redraft, rewrite

• A bitter pill to swallow

  Ironically the medication I take is literally bitter pills. I have the unfortunate moment of tasting them on my tongue before I wash them down with the tiny paper cup of water the Nurse gives me after watching to make sure I swallow my tablets. Anyway. Blogging is all good and well when I’m the…

  janetdthomas77

  October 20, 2022

  anxiety, family, Family Obligations, Favouritism, Fears, identity, Illness, Jealousy, Life, Relationships, siblings, worth

  brothers, family, Favouritism, Jealousy, Life, mental illness, Relationships, resentment

• Writer’s homework

  My book Coach Annie sent me ‘homework’ to do regarding my Memoir and I wanted to share my answers with you…because…why not? (just quietly, I am an attention whore and love it). Here you go: Writing exercises: What is your memoir’s working title? Why did you choose it? What other titles have you considered? Why…

  janetdthomas77

  October 17, 2022

  abuse, addiction, anxiety, Author life, books, communication, family, Favouritism, Fears, Friends, goals, identity, Illness, Life, loss, love, memoir, mental illness, Relationships, Writer, writing

  author, authorlife, memoir, memoirwriting, thestruggleisreal, Writer, writing

• The 1st Chapter of my Memoir

  You’re in for a treat tonight, guys – I wanted to share my updated 1st Chapter of my Memoir with you and ask your thoughts on it. Here it is: Chapter 1: The Mountain I carry Afternoons were always humid in Nhulunbuy, so sweat beaded on our foreheads and made its way in rivers down…

  janetdthomas77

  October 12, 2022

  Author life, books, family, Family Obligations, Favouritism, Fears, Friends, gardening, identity, Jealousy, Life, loss, love, memoir, Relationships, siblings, worth

  family, Favouritism, goldenchild, Life, matilda, mental illness, Relationships, unfavouritechild

• The Mountain I carry

  

  What is your first ever memory? Was it happy? (I pray that it was). I have blurry, far-away memories – as if I’m seeing them underwater and all the sounds and sights are fuzzy and not quite clear enough to be definite… I think I remember the hut I grew up in – in the…

  janetdthomas77

  June 3, 2022

  anxiety, bullies, depression, family, Favouritism, Fears, identity, Life, Relationships, worth

  Favouritism, Life, painful, themountainIcarry, unfavourite, worthless

• Unfavourite

  As I was writing my Memoir, I was gaslighting myself! Was your childhood really that bad, JD – or did you dramatise it? I actually took to YouTube of all places, to find out how other people have been affected by knowing their parents favoured their sibling over them. One girl commented “if my Mother…

  janetdthomas77

  May 20, 2022

  Author life, family, Family Obligations, Favouritism, goals, identity, Life, loss, Relationships, siblings, worth, writing

  99problems, aching, advice, anxiety, assertyourself, author, Author struggles, authorsLife, buddingwriter, FamilyDynamics, gaslighting

• Learning and growing

  It’s been 2 weeks since I was first admitted to the Psychiatric Ward here at Hollywood Clinic. I can’t believe it’s been so long, it only feels like a few days. I’ve learnt a lot in group therapy about calming myself down when I feel distressed, about “radical acceptance” of things I can’t change and…

  janetdthomas77

  January 11, 2022

  family, Favouritism, Fears, Friends, hospital, identity, Illness, Life, mental illness, Relationships, self help, self love

  birthdays, Friends, lettingGo, peoplepleasing, radicalacceptance, unhealthycopingmechanisms

• Things too painful to speak of

  

  This is one of the most painful and one of the BEST blogs I have EVER written.

  janetdthomas77

  July 27, 2021

  death, family, Favouritism, Fears, grief, Grieving, Life, loss, love, Relationships

  aching, breachingagap, brotherandsister, crossingoceans, grief, hurt, phonecallswithsiblings, profoundhurt, siblingrelationships, siblingrivalry, siblings, sorry, strainedrelationships, wilderness, youngerbrother