Category: coercive control
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Posted on Medium – sharing here for beloved friends who aren’t on Medium:
THE STIRRINGS OF AN ESCAPE PLAN – IN MY PAJAMAS. It was my responsibility to take the garbage out. It was my responsibility to do a lot of things, but I liked taking the garbage out because it was the one time of day he didn’t ‘escort’ me. It was the only time of the day he…
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My medium article – on being gaslit and emotionally abused:
I like to think of myself as creative, you know. Arty. When my brother (“the favourite”) was getting accolades for being his golden, amazing self, I’d cheer myself up and think “You might be salesman of the year — but I’m the one who notices the sunlight through a dew drop on a leaf”. I notice scratches and…
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“I can take it”
I want to help whenever I see someone hurting. I can’t seem to help but want to go over to them, put an arm around them or automatically lift up the other end of whatever huge burden they’re pulling along behind them so that between us, the burden won’t be as heavy on that person.…
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The Stanford County Jail/Prison “experiment”
I heard about it a few years ago. I think YouTube recommended it to me. Hmm. If you haven’t heard about it, it was a “psychology experiment” of power and the abuse of it, given the opportunity to do so and get away with it, run by a Psychiatrist in the 70’s. It was supposed…
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Shhh…
I’m an emotional girl, God bless me. So when I get hurt…oh it feels like my whole world has fallen apart. This latest episode of “Drama in the life of Janet” with Craig taking a load of money from me has really wound me up. I’m still reeling from it. I get all in my…
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The Shrink next door
It’s hard to write today’s blog because it hurts my heart to remember back to the abusive relationship I was in and how much pain I went through at the time. I wrote a chapter about Anne in my Memoir but watching appleTV’s series “The Shrink next door” and seeing a sweet, vulnerable man go…
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Good memories
March 07, 2017 In an effort not to combust from all the RAGE I’m experiencing – here is a happy moment in my life a like to reflect on from time to time… When I was struggling under the weight of control “Gareth” had over me…on one of the rare afternoons Gareth wasn’t home “watching…
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Thank you
I used to date a scary, incredibly abusive guy. When HE decided to leave ME (the only way the relationship was going to end because I’d bonded with my captor), Dad agreed to drive us both to the airport. We watched Gavin’s suitcases, TV (yes, he took the only TV ‘we’ had in ‘our’ apartment)…
"I get knocked down, but I get up again" 