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There’s no excuse.

An ex boyfriend used to hit me, lock me up, starve me and kept me astranged from everyone I knew and loved for 3 long years.

It is no excuse to go and hurt anyone, though.

My parents heavily favoured my younger sibling over me and that really bruised my confidence and gave me abandonment issues I’ve had to deal with in my life…but that is no excuse to hurt anyone.

I’m an avid Crime/True Crime watcher so I watch a lot of shows/YouTube videos about crime. Just lately, I’m seeing a trend of “I was badly abused/deeply hurt/lonely so I snapped and killed someone…please pity me” Crime stories.

As much as I want to show compassion, I don’t think there’s ANY excuse for taking the life of anyone else. Perhaps in self defence if it came down to survival…but I can’t think of any other reason it would be understandable. I really can’t.

I know for a fact that there are people who have suffered the pits of hell and are the most kind, thoughtful, creative, lovely people I’ve ever met. They don’t use their struggle and heartache as an excuse to kill anyone. Because there isn’t one.

Just wanted to rant to you all. Lol.

Thanks for bearing with me xx

janetdthomas77

7 responses to “There’s no excuse.”

  1. Shanti Avatar
    Shanti

    I couldn’t agree more. I am an avid fan of true crime as well. The psychology fascinated me.

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    1. janetdthomas77 Avatar
      janetdthomas77

      Right? That’s what gets me, too – the psychology behind it. Why does a seemingly “normal” person go on to kill others? It would be good to be able to spot signs of psychopathy earlier and be able to help that person so we can ultimately prevent innocent people dying.

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  2. Ellie Thompson Avatar
    Ellie Thompson

    I’m so very sorry you went through three years of hell with that ex-boyfriend. People like him need locking up. There is, as you say, never any reason to kill or hurt someone. Whatever a person has been through, it doesn’t give them the right to hurt another soul. As you know, I had a very traumatic childhood, but wouldn’t dream of hurting another living creature, man or beast. I’ve seen an image shared by someone that says, ‘Hurt people hurt people.’ I totally disagree. If we’ve been badly hurt, then it doesn’t necessarily mean we’re going to go on to hurt others. Probably, completely the opposite because we know how it feels. Thanks for sharing an important point, even if it was a rant, which you are quite entitled to have given what you went through. Sending healing, light and love to you Xx 💛

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    1. janetdthomas77 Avatar
      janetdthomas77

      So true, Ellie…people who have been hurt don’t “naturally” go and hurt others, they are more likely to be empathic and compassionate towards others to save them from any pain.

      You are such a beautiful example of someone who has been treated so badly yet you have so much love in your heart and treat others with respect and gentleness. I’m sooo proud of you and so happy to know you. I absolutely love your blog xx

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        Ellie Thompson

        Oh, thank you so much for your kind words, Janet. Although we’ve only recently met, I feel we have quite a lot in common in the way we’ve both been hurt so badly and yet we still do our utmost to be there for others with love and compassion. I’m proud of you, also, and really enjoy reading your blog. Have a lovely day/evening/night (depending on where you are in the world). My love to you beautiful lady Xx 😘

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  3. OA Avatar
    OA

    I’m sorry for what you’ve been through, and I’m glad you’re in a safe loving relationship now.
    I agree with you! People will find any excuse for the bad things they do. But they really can’t use anything as an excuse because there are always people in similar situations, with a background just a bad or even worse, who DON’T resort to hurting or murdering others. For every person who turned bad, there’s someone who turned good – not in spite of what happened to them, but because of what happened…so how do they justify their actions in the face of that? It ultimately boils down to free will and choice, our choices to respond to the trauma we suffer with vindictiveness or the desire to put kindness out into the world to balance out the evil.

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    1. janetdthomas77 Avatar
      janetdthomas77

      I love hearing from you, beautiful girl. It’s so true that just because someone has suffered, it doesn’t excuse them making others suffer. I think the most caring people come from the most painful backgrounds.

      As you rightly pointed out…we are each given free will and make a choice on how we treat others. Unfortunately we can’t control the behaviour of others, but we can make the decision to treat those around us with kindness and act with integrity in every area of our lives. Sending you big hugs 🫂 xoxo

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